I say, hold off on the Facebook friend request until you know that you’re on the same digital page.Although your request may be in the spirit of being social media friendly and you’re super-excited about your date, it’s a boundary issue that singles may not agree on.Plus, you’ve both probably still got photos of your ex you’ve forgotten to “untag” or delete.Why bother bringing in the drama of insecurity so soon into a relationship?
Internet sleuthing is like masturbation: Everyone does it (thanks, Janet Reno! The recipient of the friend request may think you’re overly eager, unconfident, intrusive,or even creepy.Moreover, doing so may even unnecessarily create misperceptions abouteach other before the date has even happened.Bottom line: You’re worth getting to know in person.A new relationship should progress with appropriate boundaries, which means revealing personal information a little at a time. Before becoming exclusive you should be practicing a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy…so don’t allow Facebook to do the telling for you…it usually only gets you in trouble or creates anxiety. Besides, you have no idea yet if you WANT this person to be a friend.Take the time to get to know someone while on your dates.