And I was conscious of it when I would introduce my mom to people, and they'd be like, "Oh, your mom's really ."It was weird because we live near Boston, Massachusetts.It's not as if we live somewhere where no one had ever seen a trans person, but often groups of young men or older people would be hostile. One time we went up to northern Maine to visit mom's family and it was awful.We were in the town's library and these teenagers were calling my mom "it" and asking if "it" was a boy or a girl.Obviously my sister and I called my mom "mom," so they were saying "it must be a girl" and things like that." It's like, "please, tell me, I have to put them in a box." Because that's what humans do. It's not even hostility, it's just that people are genuinely confused — and then they are just either accepting of it or they feel awkward about discussing it further.We like to categorize people and when someone says, "Oh, well, I'm just ... We get the same invasive questions that all trans people get." as if they can't ask what you like about your mom or what you like about the situation.To be truthful, I wouldn't change anything because to live in [an environment] where you can live authentically is a good thing to me.
They had a horrible marriage and divorced three years later.Then my mom got remarried — my stepdad is wonderful — and moved back to Massachusetts.Eventually I moved back in with them, and [it was like] I was starting the process of getting to know my mom again.People have asked me, "Has your mom gotten the surgery? Because I don't." People think it's OK to ask a bunch of questions about trans people that you just wouldn't ask other people." and I'm like, "Um, do you want me to ask about your mom's genitals? If you asked a cis person about that, they'd be like, "Excuse me? Don't do that." [.]One of the other things that people ask often is, "What's the hardest thing?