When you write a dating advice column, one of the inevitable questions that comes up is the idea of inexperience.
For many men, especially as they get older, dating inexperience is a vicious catch-22.
The numbers are arbitrary and invented and almost always tend to be pulled from thin air; I’ve had statistics when it comes to sex and relationships.
We tend to make assumptions based around expectations built up by pop-culture and expectations about what makes a “real” man, assuming that everybody (but us) has been riding the sex train since the 5th Grade while we’re still Machokeing our Combusken at 19.
(That remaining 1 out of 10 has done you the favor of self-selecting out of your dating pool and you should be grateful that you don’t need to deal with them.) When you’re treating your lack of dates or sexual activity as a crime perpetuated against you by the universe, it makes you considerably less attractive to… If you dig into women’s about how they behave and the attitudes they had towards themselves, towards women and towards relationships. There’s two ways that making excuses doesn’t help you.
First and foremost is trying to rationalize away your inexperience.
That’s not taking ownership of being socially inexperienced; that’s making it the core of your identity and letting it overtake your life.If you miss that window, then you’re fucked; you’re now saddled with a permanent debuff to your dating odds that you’ll overcome.Of course, this window of opportunity bears about as much resemblance to reality as Pokemon does to animal husbandry.The difference is deceptively simple, but it makes a world of difference.See, one of the fears of being inexperienced is that your potential partners will see it as a negative.