The woman on the computer screen is “the other woman.” Because of this, many women are devastated when they discover their husbands have been looking at porn.
For many wives, their husbands’ use of pornography is a violation of marital trust.
Attributes I already knew he found attractive, but hearing the words ripped my heart into a thousand pieces. Then I asked a question I shouldn’t have asked, “So, if you stood her next to me, you would think she was more beautiful? Whenever we were in public, I feared seeing a woman with the qualities he named. And whenever my husband looked at me I’d wonder if I was beautiful enough.
I never imagined feeling beautiful again, not after my dearest companion whispered the heart-wrenching words, ‘Yes, she’s more beautiful than you.’ Agonizing thoughts popped up every time my husband and I made love. But every time I saw another woman I’d compare myself.
And the night he confessed to viewing pornography at work while I waited for him at home—pregnant. But how could I feel beautiful in my own skin after my husband ranked me below other women? Every flaw somehow vanished when I realized that my imperfections were beautiful to Him.
Truly, I feel as though my beauty has been resurrected since I looked at myself through God’s eyes, and stopped trying to attain the sex appeal advertised on billboards or advertisements.
Although it’s still difficult not to desire that kind of sexiness, God has shown me a different side of beauty.
For these women, the men they married all of a sudden seem like strangers.
Many feel like a fool for ever having trusted their husbands.