Relationships Australia is a leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families and communities.We aim to support all people in Australia to achieve positive and respectful relationships.And in this case, the letter did what we wanted it to do: it ended our argument. If we had communicated better from the start — if we had fought more thoughtfully and effectively — maybe things would have been different.There are many reasons South Asian women leave leave home, not just Domestic Violence or Forced Marriage so here at Sharan we aim to offer extensive links to support for thoes who feel they do not fit into a box or label and want to actively find out more about what support and choices are available to them.By then, I knew the root of my concerns: Ever since Hurricane Irma hit our area, I was seeing him less, and he didn’t want to visit as much.It wasn’t the issue that started our conflict, but after a few days of marinating, I knew it was the one that was fueling it. At a certain point, to move forward, it’s best to get as close as possible to an in-person conversation: In the “Go Long! To people whose relationships cross state lines or time zones, that probably doesn’t sound so bad.And that’s fair; we had it better than plenty of people who have to hop on a plane to see their partner.
Distance apart, frequency of in-person contact, and “attitudes about the prospect of one’s relationship” all made the list, but the most important factors for success were commitment and communication — same as with couples who live near each other.
Our conflict styles were frustratingly different: Whenever Will and I disagreed on something, he would send me a text that changed the subject.
My instinct, on the other hand, was to text and text until the screen is blue with my own words.
Maybe you can’t argue and make up in a single night — but being apart from your partner means that you can take the time to be thoughtful about what’s bothering you, and deliberate about how and what you want to communicate.
For Will and I, there were several days between the beginning of the fight and its end.